Probably won’t, probably will
Lately, I’ve allowed myself to feel a lot of pressure from the collective internet to be really creative, crafty, and decorative in every aspect in my life, even though I know it’s completely unreasonable. By “the collective internet,” I’m not referring to the lovely folks I’ve “met” through different channels and correspond with regularly. No, I mean that nameless, faceless mob that somehow implies that I should be making all manner of crafts from men’s t-shirts, filming a sentimental video for my anniversary, planning a mustache-themed party, and making cake pops. And, hey, if you like that stuff, all the power to you! I just … don’t. For a while, I’ve felt strange and guilty about that, even though I knew that it made no sense at all.
Thanks to the kind, supportive comments on my last post about our low-key anniversary, I’ve been pondering what it looks like to just do whatever I want. I don’t mean this in a willy-nilly, anarchist way, but more like being confident about what I like to do and being okay with leaving behind the things I don’t, especially when they are perfectly good, constructive things.
In that vein, I brainstormed a list of things I probably won’t do, and it was very freeing to see it out there. Self, it’s okay that you are not doing these things! Then, I felt like I wasn’t doing anything, which is inaccurate, so I countered them with things I probably (most likely, almost for sure) will do. Here’s what I came up with:
Won’t: subscribe to or read magazines
Will: read a book a week
Won’t: seek out new movies to watch or go see them in a theater (and by extension, have a clue as to what’s going on at the Oscars)
Will: give you a decent book recommendation (or 5)
Won’t: have a sit-down dinner party or make place cards
Will: label the food on a buffet line at a casual get-together
Won’t: enjoy cooking dinner
Will: bring a dessert to basically any gathering I attend
Won’t: devise a photo shoot with a color scheme, outfits, and props
Will: take lots of pictures of other people at an event and send out a link to a web album for viewing and ordering prints
Won’t: naturally turn a bunch of craft supplies into something cohesive or attractive
Will: make a personalized onesie for a new baby
Won’t: make a 7-layer rainbow cake
Will: make themed sugar cookies
Won’t: keep house plants alive
Will: buy fresh flowers every so often
That all seems about right to me, and it helps stave off the unfounded guilt about whatever project I’m not doing.
What do you think? What will or won’t you (probably) do?